If you are into BDSM or kinky play, I am sure you are familiar with the gags. There are different types of gag that people are into. Some people are fixated with the open mouth gag, and some prefers to stuff something in their/ their partner’s mouth. Today, I would like to talk particularly about ball gags. For those of you who haven’t used a ball gag, or are curious about trying it out, this article would be perfect for you.

WHAT IS A BALL GAG?

gag balls in different sizes and colors

Ball gag is a type of BDSM toy that is used to keep the user’s mouth open, and therefore, preventing them from speaking. It comes in many different shape and forms, in which the mouth gag is attached to a strap that will go around the user’s head. This type of toy is enjoyable particularly for those who like to do the whole dominant – submissive/ master – slave role play in the bedroom.

There is something enticing about ball gag for those who enjoy the play of power. For the submissive person, the gagball allows them to give up their power to the other person. By putting a gag in their mouth, they automatically give up their ability to speak or refuse their partner. On the other hand, the dominant person would feel aroused by seeing their counterpart’s submission. Some doms enjoy the look of the gag in their sub’s mouth, some others enjoy the sound that the partner makes when they have the ball gag on, but most doms like both.

Another reason why ball gag is popular is due to its function as a punishment tool. Some couples find control and punishment game extremely sexy. And therefore, disciplining and/ or punishing their partner, as well as humiliating them is an unavoidable part of the bedroom roleplay. Placing a ball gag in someone’s mouth is one of the most popular punishment/ disciplinary method in the bedroom.

THE SAFETY ASPECT

When it comes to BDSM, it is necessary to understand the importance of safe, sane and consensual sex. Both sides have to consent to the action and do so because they personally feel aroused/ pleasured by such role. There needs to be a mutual understanding that once a person reach a certain limit, the play time would be stopped. Hence, the importance of a “safe word”. However, during the time that the gag is on, a sub couldn’t voice out his/ her objection. And therefore, both partners need to agree on a particular movement/ gesture that signify  that the game needs to be paused/ stopped.

For those who haven’t experienced using a ball gag or ring gag before, they shouldn’t use the toy for a lengthy period of time. They could start using the gag for 15-30 minutes, depends on how comfortable they feel. Note that using the ball gag for a prolonged period of time could cause jaw stiffness, pain, and/ or other discomfort. Also make sure that the person who’s wearing a gag is in a fully healthy and relaxed state. This will avoid panic attack and/ or other physical problem, such as: difficulties to breathe or choking.

WHICH BALL GAG MATERIAL SHOULD I CHOOSE?

Most ball gags are made of plastic, metal, silicon, leather or rubber. It is important to note, however, not all of these materials are safe and washable. Just like every other toy that is made of leather or rubber, ball gags from such material are porous and toxic. Avoid sharing your toy with other people to prevent the transmission of bacteria and diseases. Ball gags cause the users to salivate, which could also ruin the leather material over a period of time. Your best bet would be to opt for the classic silicone gag for more comfort, or plastic/ metal gag for a more hardcore role play.

DIFFERENT TYPES OF BALL GAGS

FOR THE BEGINNER GAGGERS:

Make sure that you start small and simple. Like every other BDSM toy, it often takes a little time to get comfortable using a toy on your body. Some people started off by using the bit gag/ a cylinder shape gag. I consider this type of open mouth gag the simplest. This way, they are restricted from talking/ making a sound; yet they feel comfortable because they could bite into the toy, without having to exhaust the jaw.

a pink bit gag

After you feel comfortable using the bit gag, you can then move on to a smaller-size ball gag.  A starting point for ball gaggers would be the ones with 1 ½  – 1 ¾ inches diameter ball. These ball are considered small. Please note that for the beginner, it is more comfortable to use ball gags that are equipped with an adjustable/ stretchy strap

.small silicone ball gag

FOR THE INTERMEDIATE GAGGERS:

Once you get comfortable with the smaller balls, you could then move on to the medium/ medium large balls. These gag balls range between 1 ⅞ – 2 inches in diameter. You can also start experimenting with a ball gag that comes with a lock and key to add kinkiness into the role play.

Most of the users at this point would start enjoying leather strap on their ball gag due to the strictness and the appealing, punishing-like appearance of the toy.

FOR THE ADVANCED GAGGERS:

large ball gag

When you finally graduated from the medium size balls, you could then experiment with the large/ extra large gag balls. These balls should be around 2 ⅛- 2 ¼ inches in diameter.

Another way to step up your ball gag game as an advanced gaggers, is to use a multifunction toy that punish you with extra stuff beyond the gag. Some people start experiencing with bondage gagged, ball gag with nipple clamps, and even

 

WHERE CAN I BUY MY BALL GAGS?

As it is with everything else, you could purchase these toys in most major brick and mortar sex shops. If you’re interested in purchasing them online, however, here are some websites that I found legit to get these toys from:

A. Pleasure Paradox (on Etsy)
Handmade, good quality and beautiful appearance.

B. Lovehoney
Pretty standard but is a quite well-known brand; and therefore, the quality is not compromised.

C. The Sub Shop
Various options, pretty good quality and quite well priced.

D. The Stockroom
Various options, high quality and a bit on the pricey side.

LAST BUT NOT LEAST..

Please let me know if you have experienced role playing with ball gags or if you are interested to try. Are you more the Dom or the Sub? What’s the best and worst experiences you’ve had with the toy? Do you have any favorite store where you usually purchase the toy?